Affirmation, not Creation

Affirmation, not Creation Dr. Gary Chapman’s “The 5 Love Languages” taught me why affirmations have always been so important to me. Under the proper encouragement, I can overcome just about anything. Yet, I have learned over time that, affirmations are just that, affirmations of worth, not creation or worth. Without the foundation of identity to rest on, affirmations are like drinking salt water – the more you consume, the less you actually have. I was confused by this for a long time. I had ...

How to Stop Negative Thinking

How to Stop Negative Thinking Stress is a constant. Busy schedules, kids to care for, lack of sleep, the dog is sick, and traffic all contribute to stress and anxiety. Unmanaged stress can lead to worry, negative thinking, low self-esteem and depression. If you could stop your negative thinking and, as a result, feel less stressed, get better sleep, and feel happier…would you? I’m here to tell you that it’s possible. Paul states in 2 Corinthians 10:5 that “…we take captive every thought to make it ...

10 Ways We Make Ourselves Miserable for No Good Reason

10 Ways We Make Ourselves Miserable for No Good Reason Have you ever said to yourself things like, “I wish life was better”, “I wish I felt more fulfilled”, or “I wish I had more peace in my life”? If there was a guaranteed way to make life better, how far would you go to get it? What if the 3 pounds inside your skull could make your life better even without a single thing about your external life changing? That all sounds like it would be amazing right? Now, ...

9 Ways You are Flushing Your Happiness Down the Drain

9 Ways You are Flushing Your Happiness Down the Drain This post is a follow up to an earlier post that I recommend you read first: How To Stop Negative Thinking. Negative thinking hits us all. I know that, for me, it is incredibly difficult to stop myself from going around and around the whirlpool of spiraling thoughts, eventually sucking me into anger, depression and frustration. Once we hit the rim of a negative thought, how do we stop the inevitable spiral down? It’s incredibly discouraging to try and try again ...

When Life Feels Out of Control

When Life Feels Out of Control My life recently has felt out of control. Sometimes, things just throw me for a loop. A curve ball comes from nowhere, life gets very difficult, and I don’t know what to do. Sometimes life throws us difficult situations and we feel helpless, or even hopeless. A dear friend or family member dies, a child chooses to go in the wrong direction in life, chronic illness seems to debilitate no matter what one does, or one looses a job. Life ...

I’m Having A Bad Day

I’m Having A Bad Day I’m having a bad day. Things just aren’t going well. Or should I say more accurately, things aren’t going my way. It’s difficult, and can set my whole life spinning. So what do I do in a situation where I’m having a bad day? I notice my self-talk. Self-talk are the messages I tell myself or that little voice inside my head that is telling me, in this case, “You’re worthless. Look at how people have treated you poorly in ...

Mourning the Loss of What Could Have Been

Mourning the Loss of What Could Have Been Something didn’t happen to you. It could have been a mother’s warm embrace that never happened because she was too busy drinking. A marriage that didn’t have a “happily ever after” because it is now ending. A child that was still born instead of being vibrant and healthy. A friend that was not there for you when you needed them the most, leaving you without support. You lost something, and your hopes and dreams about what could have been are now ...

What if your limitations don’t exist?

What if your limitations don’t exist? I am always impressed by what people say they can and cannot do or achieve. I believe that life is determined by the boundaries we accept within it. Meaning that my dreams, accomplishments, or even financial budget are the product of what I believe I can or cannot do in this world. Let me share with you a story of my life as an example. My wife is an amazing and lovely women whom I love very much, so last year ...