Real Men DO Cry

Real Men DO Cry Whether you heard it from your father, brother, friends, or society as a whole, every man has felt the pressure to hide his vulnerability, namely tears. Either intentionally or accidentally, mankind is taught the rules of the animal kingdom: show no pain, otherwise you are a target. Thus, pain, suffering, or the growth that results from breaking and then healing, is sorely undervalued. Since suffering looks like weakness, we men avoid it strongest since our gender is supposed to represent ...

I Hate Fake people!

I Hate Fake people! I’ve heard the phrase “I hate fake people” a lot, and yes, I’ve said it a lot. Fake people are the worst! You know the type: those people who are always spewing out lies and constantly talking about themselves, presenting themselves as something other than who they really are. We can see right through them, and I get this icky feeling that grows in my stomach when I’m around them. Weather I like it or not, I have been this type ...

A Story about a Painting

A Story about a Painting “This is never going to work,” I thought, “but I’m going to keep pushing forward until someone besides myself tells me I can’t move forward. If I never try, I will always wonder if it could have actually worked.” My wife, Betsy, had long been enamored by the paintings of a man from West Michigan named George Peebles. She loved his style and the vibrant color that often accompanied the moments of nature he would capture on canvas. Many months before ...

We Don’t Know Squat: A challenge to let go of assumptions

We Don’t Know Squat: A challenge to let go of assumptions             How many times over the course of humanity have the greatest minds in this world convinced us that we cannot accomplish something? How many times have they been completely wrong? Flying, for example, was happening only 8 years after it was declared “impossible” by William Thomson, a mathematical physicist. Charles Duell, the commissioner of the U.S. patent office once said, “Everything that can be invented has been invented.” He said this in 1899. One of my favorite stories on this topic ...

I’m Having A Bad Day

I’m Having A Bad Day I’m having a bad day. Things just aren’t going well. Or should I say more accurately, things aren’t going my way. It’s difficult, and can set my whole life spinning. So what do I do in a situation where I’m having a bad day? I notice my self-talk. Self-talk are the messages I tell myself or that little voice inside my head that is telling me, in this case, “You’re worthless. Look at how people have treated you poorly in ...

Of frozen pizza and forgetful husbands

Of frozen pizza and forgetful husbands In honor of the many respectable women that I know, my wife being the fairest of them all, I wanted to offer this blog post to give some insight and encouragement for those moments when your husband just doesn’t seem to get it. Husbands, this is for you too because this post holds insight into what your best lady might be thinking through the process. How many men in this world have heard “You seriously can’t remember this?” or “We have ...

What if your limitations don’t exist?

What if your limitations don’t exist? I am always impressed by what people say they can and cannot do or achieve. I believe that life is determined by the boundaries we accept within it. Meaning that my dreams, accomplishments, or even financial budget are the product of what I believe I can or cannot do in this world. Let me share with you a story of my life as an example. My wife is an amazing and lovely women whom I love very much, so last year ...

The Dow Jones is Falling, The Stock Market is Faltering, The World Might End…What Do I Do?

The Dow Jones is Falling, The Stock Market is Faltering, The World Might End…What Do I Do? The Fear I must admit that when the stock market fell through the floor last week and has continued to falter, I was seriously concerned about my retirement funds and had some anxiety at the thought of what our monthly statement would say when it came in the mail. I know I’m not alone here. One look at the media attention given to the issue is evidence enough that the hemorrhaging market is putting hoards of people on edge about what the ...

A Young Man’s Letter to his Retirement Plan

A Young Man’s Letter to his Retirement Plan Dear Retirement Plan, I need you. I hate you. You tell me all these wonderful promises about how you will be there for me when my body is overrun by time and wrinkles. You tell me that it’s okay for my back to be bent beyond its ability to work because someday you will support me. You say that, work or not, someday I will be safe and warm, no matter what. For all this, I am tempted to love you and ...