My Life is Hard and I Prefer it that Way

My Life is Hard and I Prefer it that Way This is an odd thought, I know, but hear me out and you might find that you agree. Let me paint you two different pictures: First, we have a young man who grew up in a new suburb, lived in a big house with a theater room, game room, and a hot tub out back. His family was wealthy, but never filthy rich. They went on a tropical cruise every year, he usually had the latest generation of phone and gaming ...

The People Pleasing Disease

The People Pleasing Disease Imagine this: You are at work and you see someone you like walking down the hall. You aren’t romantically interested, but you like them simply because of their fun personality. You see them pass other co-workers and notice that everyone they meet seems to like them too because they give a big smile or a pat on the back. Are you likely to respect this person more or less because they are well liked by everyone? Most of us would answer ...

The 2 Most Important Questions Everyone Must Ask

The 2 Most Important Questions Everyone Must Ask Would you believe me If I told you the 2 most important questions were: How happy am I? How much money do I make? I certainly hope you don’t believe me because those questions are garbage. Would you really let money define you like that? How do you even quantify happiness? No, both of these questions are rubbish. They are merely things in which society wants me to feel the pressure of performance. What about these next two questions: How wise am I? How much do ...

What Would You Do if You Were Married to Josh Dugger or Jerod Fogel?

What Would You Do if You Were Married to Josh Dugger or Jerod Fogel? Ashley Madison security breach; people are amazed. Famous people get caught like Josh Dugger, Jerod Fogel, and Tiger Woods; people are surprised and disgusted. I am surprised by how surprised we all are! Lots of these famous people have been inspiring role models who fell into a terrible lifestyle and were caught right in front of America’s eyes, ouch! Unfortunately, in my line of work, I see this all too often with many people who are inspiring role models, no ...

I Hate Fake people!

I Hate Fake people! I’ve heard the phrase “I hate fake people” a lot, and yes, I’ve said it a lot. Fake people are the worst! You know the type: those people who are always spewing out lies and constantly talking about themselves, presenting themselves as something other than who they really are. We can see right through them, and I get this icky feeling that grows in my stomach when I’m around them. Weather I like it or not, I have been this type ...

I’m Having A Bad Day

I’m Having A Bad Day I’m having a bad day. Things just aren’t going well. Or should I say more accurately, things aren’t going my way. It’s difficult, and can set my whole life spinning. So what do I do in a situation where I’m having a bad day? I notice my self-talk. Self-talk are the messages I tell myself or that little voice inside my head that is telling me, in this case, “You’re worthless. Look at how people have treated you poorly in ...

Of frozen pizza and forgetful husbands

Of frozen pizza and forgetful husbands In honor of the many respectable women that I know, my wife being the fairest of them all, I wanted to offer this blog post to give some insight and encouragement for those moments when your husband just doesn’t seem to get it. Husbands, this is for you too because this post holds insight into what your best lady might be thinking through the process. How many men in this world have heard “You seriously can’t remember this?” or “We have ...

What if your limitations don’t exist?

What if your limitations don’t exist? I am always impressed by what people say they can and cannot do or achieve. I believe that life is determined by the boundaries we accept within it. Meaning that my dreams, accomplishments, or even financial budget are the product of what I believe I can or cannot do in this world. Let me share with you a story of my life as an example. My wife is an amazing and lovely women whom I love very much, so last year ...

Am I Enough? The Desperate Search for Value in both Men and Women

Am I Enough? The Desperate Search for Value in both Men and Women “You can be the most beautiful person in the world and everybody sees light and rainbows when they look at you, but if you yourself don’t know it, all of that doesn’t even matter.” – C. Joybell C. “You think because he doesn’t love you that you are worthless. You think that because he doesn’t want you anymore that he is right — that his judgment and opinion of you are correct. If he throws you out, then you are garbage. ...

The Hurricane of Adolescence

The Hurricane of Adolescence Below is part of a chapter out of the book I am currently working on. I think we can all relate. Enjoy!   Adolescence can be seen like a massive hurricane (and for many of us, it was). This hurricane consists of two major tasks, 1) surviving the raging waters of new hormones and emotions, and 2) withstanding the screaming winds of our first taste of autonomy – independence and figuring out where we fit in the pecking order. If we were ...