A Story about a Painting

A Story about a Painting “This is never going to work,” I thought, “but I’m going to keep pushing forward until someone besides myself tells me I can’t move forward. If I never try, I will always wonder if it could have actually worked.” My wife, Betsy, had long been enamored by the paintings of a man from West Michigan named George Peebles. She loved his style and the vibrant color that often accompanied the moments of nature he would capture on canvas. Many months before ...

We Don’t Know Squat: A challenge to let go of assumptions

We Don’t Know Squat: A challenge to let go of assumptions             How many times over the course of humanity have the greatest minds in this world convinced us that we cannot accomplish something? How many times have they been completely wrong? Flying, for example, was happening only 8 years after it was declared “impossible” by William Thomson, a mathematical physicist. Charles Duell, the commissioner of the U.S. patent office once said, “Everything that can be invented has been invented.” He said this in 1899. One of my favorite stories on this topic ...

Mourning the Loss of What Could Have Been

Mourning the Loss of What Could Have Been Something didn’t happen to you. It could have been a mother’s warm embrace that never happened because she was too busy drinking. A marriage that didn’t have a “happily ever after” because it is now ending. A child that was still born instead of being vibrant and healthy. A friend that was not there for you when you needed them the most, leaving you without support. You lost something, and your hopes and dreams about what could have been are now ...

The Dow Jones is Falling, The Stock Market is Faltering, The World Might End…What Do I Do?

The Dow Jones is Falling, The Stock Market is Faltering, The World Might End…What Do I Do? The Fear I must admit that when the stock market fell through the floor last week and has continued to falter, I was seriously concerned about my retirement funds and had some anxiety at the thought of what our monthly statement would say when it came in the mail. I know I’m not alone here. One look at the media attention given to the issue is evidence enough that the hemorrhaging market is putting hoards of people on edge about what the ...

A Young Man’s Letter to his Retirement Plan

A Young Man’s Letter to his Retirement Plan Dear Retirement Plan, I need you. I hate you. You tell me all these wonderful promises about how you will be there for me when my body is overrun by time and wrinkles. You tell me that it’s okay for my back to be bent beyond its ability to work because someday you will support me. You say that, work or not, someday I will be safe and warm, no matter what. For all this, I am tempted to love you and ...

Am I Enough? The Desperate Search for Value in both Men and Women

Am I Enough? The Desperate Search for Value in both Men and Women “You can be the most beautiful person in the world and everybody sees light and rainbows when they look at you, but if you yourself don’t know it, all of that doesn’t even matter.” – C. Joybell C. “You think because he doesn’t love you that you are worthless. You think that because he doesn’t want you anymore that he is right — that his judgment and opinion of you are correct. If he throws you out, then you are garbage. ...

The Hurricane of Adolescence

The Hurricane of Adolescence Below is part of a chapter out of the book I am currently working on. I think we can all relate. Enjoy!   Adolescence can be seen like a massive hurricane (and for many of us, it was). This hurricane consists of two major tasks, 1) surviving the raging waters of new hormones and emotions, and 2) withstanding the screaming winds of our first taste of autonomy – independence and figuring out where we fit in the pecking order. If we were ...