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When Life Feels Out of Control

Posted on by Betsy Nuismer
When Life Feels Out of Control My life recently has felt out of control. Sometimes, things just throw me for a loop. A curve ball comes from nowhere, life gets very difficult, and I don’t know what to do. Sometimes life throws us difficult situations and we feel helpless, or even hopeless. A dear friend or family member dies, a child chooses to go in the wrong direction in life, chronic illness seems to debilitate no matter what one does, or one looses a job. Life ...

Mourning the Loss of What Could Have Been

Posted on by Betsy Nuismer
Mourning the Loss of What Could Have Been Something didn’t happen to you. It could have been a mother’s warm embrace that never happened because she was too busy drinking. A marriage that didn’t have a “happily ever after” because it is now ending. A child that was still born instead of being vibrant and healthy. A friend that was not there for you when you needed them the most, leaving you without support. You lost something, and your hopes and dreams about what could have been are now ...

How to Communicate with Empathy

Posted on by Betsy Nuismer
How to Communicate with Empathy “When…someone really hears you without passing judgement on you, without trying to take responsibility for you, without trying to mold you, it feels…good…. When I have been listened to and when I have been heard, I am able to re-perceive my world in a new way and go on. It is astonishing how elements that seem insoluble become soluble when someone listens. How confusions that seem irremediable turns into relatively clear flowing streams when one is heard.” -Carl Rodgers I am not ...

Therapy Answers: Effective? Too expensive? Do I really need it?

Posted on by Scott Nuismer
Therapy Answers: Effective? Too expensive? Do I really need it? I remember going through some serious pain in my life and thinking about going to therapy at one point, long before I decided to become a therapist myself. I remember a few distinct mental blocks and fears that kept me from going (or from thinking I really needed therapy in the first place). I can handle this myself Bad times pass and so will this, right? It’s too expensive Isn’t this issue too big for just talking to fix? How can I know the therapist ...